By our guest blogger, Dr. Lou Dunn Diekemper, senior living expert and author of Let Us Share: A Conversation of Growing Older
Doctor visits are rarely an enjoyable experience and frequently the information we receive will not satisfy us unless we are prepared to ask the right questions. It has taken me years to learn effective ways to prepare for an appointment, and I think it is very important for all of us to learn how to be proactive with our physicians.
1. Choosing a Physician
First of all, choose a physician who shows interest in you. It is certainly all right for you to keep searching for a physician until you know you can relate to this very important partner in a constructive way. You need to feel confident about discussing your problem and treatment with someone who will look you in the eye and work with you in developing trust.
2. Bring a List of Medications and Questions
In my book, Let Us Share: A Conversation on Growing Older, I suggest that you go to each appointment with a list of current medications and supplements for the physician, as well as current results of any tests or readings you conduct at home. Also, I suggest you write down any questions you have for the doctor. Do this well in advance of your appointment and add to it as new questions appear in your mind. I sometimes present a copy to the doctor, so we can find answers together.
I have actually had physicians thank me for being organized. Coming prepared with written information helps the doctor know, at a glance, the purpose of your visit. Have a pen and paper handy to jot down information as your questions are discussed. It is quite helpful to have this information as a reference point for later.
3. Bring a Friend or A Loved One
You may wish to take someone with you to help you remember a diagnosis or help interpret avenues for treatment. I sometimes think I will remember everything and then realize later that some points have slipped my mind. Bringing a tape recorder can also be helpful. You can be concentrating so hard on what is being said you may overlook salient issues. Having the interview recorded will help you gain a better perspective after you’ve left the doctor’s office.
4. Be Patient
Next, cultivate a sense of humor. It often takes a lot of self-talk to make an appointment in the first place. Secretaries or receptionists are not always the most sympathetic people in scheduling a visit. Indeed, I have sometimes felt as if they totally control who gets to see the physician and who doesn’t. They seem to think they have done us a favor by letting us in. Try to consider that it may be a bad hair day for her or that he has had to deal with some unpleasant patients. Just make an effort to be pleasant and courteous.
Understanding and acceptance are good coping mechanisms when a lengthy wait ensues before you get to see the doctor. In fairness, we have to realize that earlier patients may take more time than expected and that emergencies do occur. By all means, carry your own reading material for the waiting and examining rooms. Reading materials offered in the world of health care are notoriously out of date and limited in scope. You will be a much calmer patient if you read something you find interesting to pass the time, instead of fretting about the wait.
5. At the Visit
Try to develop a rapport with your physician. You have already noticed the waiting room, now notice the office or examining room. See if the environment holds any personal items — such as photos, paintings and even degree certifications — you might bring up as a brief conversation item. If you are aware of any hobbies or interest he or she might have, you could mention them, too. It is really very important to do your part in creating a bonding spirit between you and your doctor, particularly if this is to be a long-term partnership of healing.
6. Listen to Yourself
Also, remember to listen to the healer within. I think we all need to realize we have a personal responsibility to maintain or seek the best possible health we can achieve. We need to become our own personal physicians by listening to our bodies and following what they tell us.
This process requires self-discipline and a real sense of commitment. It is also very encouraging to the physician to know a patient is serious about following a health program and willing to subscribe to his or her suggestions.
7. Rate Your Appointments
Now, consider your appointments with physicians and care providers in the past. Note those that were helpful and those that left you feeling confused or frustrated. Try to analyze how you might have had more successful appointments by being a genuine participant in the process.
In the future, may you look forward to each doctor’s appointment ungrudgingly, as a time of discovery on your individual journey to health.
Thanks to Dr. Diekemper for her words of advice. Have a doctor visit tip or question? Post it in the Comments section below!