No parents means no rules, right?!? Lauren W., our College blogger, recently learned that college life isn’t as free and liberating as it’s cracked up to be. Here’s her story:
Incoming freshmen come to college with images of freedom from their home lives. No parents and no rules are a dream come true. No parents is a reality, however no rules…not at all.
One Friday night I found myself being wrongly accused of committing dorm violations: over occupancy, breaking of quiet hours, guest violations, consumption of alcohol, and being in the presence of alcohol were all under three friend’s names and mine. However, on this night we were wrongly accused of all of these.
Two friends and myself were at a different college for the night and returned to our dorm around 1:30 A.M. Upon returning, our goal of the night was to eat Ramen and go to sleep. We knew one of our friends had a plethora of Ramen in their room and it was free for our taking. Instead, we unknowingly walked into a situation with almost every possible room violation we could be accused of: there was alcohol everywhere and our friend’s roommate hosted two illegally checked-in guests. The Resident Assistants (RAs) spotted us walking into the room and preceded to follow us, and write us up despite the fact they saw us enter seconds before them. We were so furious with these RAs because we knew were completely innocent.
A few days later, we all received e-mails telling us we had a date with the judicial court and they would decide what our punishment would be. All involved, the roommate, his friends, the four innocent bystanders, and the girl who aided in sneaking in the guests, were called in. We sat and explained our story for two hours in front of a board of other students. Thankfully, us four innocent bystanders were let off the hook. Despite getting away without any form of punishment, it was a hassle to deal with the whole thing and easily could have been avoided.
Headed to college? Here’s what you can do to avoid such situations:
Read the Handbook!: Yes, the handbook is boring and full of unnecessary rules, but in a case like this it helps to know what you can and cannot be held responsible for. Going into the hearing we had an idea of how serious our punishments could be because the violations and consequences were laid out right in front of us. We knew how important it was to state our case.
Know What is Happening: Know the room you are walking into. We had no idea of anything going on in this room, and that was our downfall. It was our fault that we walked into a room full of illegal activity. Had we actually talked to our friend before waltzing in, we would have known not to go in.
Keep your ID and friends close: One of the girls in our hearing received a fine because she gave our ID out for another student to use. Although she was not actually present in the room, she was held responsible for the outside guests she supposedly checked in. It’s appealing to trust all the really great people you meet, but it is important to watch out for yourself first.
Thanks Lauren for such a great story! Have tips or topic ideas for Lauren? Post them in the Comments section below!